http://www.preciousmoms.com/talk/forum/index.cfm?forumid=10 FuseTalk Basic Edition http://www.preciousmoms.com/talk/forum/messageview.cfm?catid=84&threadid=7266 2009-09-14T10:39:09 -05.00 PMTushin 1 School & Education http://www.preciousmoms.com/talk/forum/messageview.cfm?catid=84&threadid=2919 2009-03-24T22:10:19 -05.00 anonymous 1
His parents do have not taken any action or given any "punishment" so he does not care. All he wants to do is to be a "rock star" right now. In fact today he said he did not care if his grades were up in one subject. All he wants to do is write a new song for the upcoming 17 April concert that his father signed the contract for him to do.

Now both of his parents are college graduates. The husband works all the time and when he is home he is usually complaining about his back problems for which he takes a control substance.

The mother has her hands full with 4 other younger children. She has been seeing a doctor for depression...possibly bi-polar disorder. The children say they are sick so they stay home. Occasionally she takes the child to school should he or she get to feeling better...ie. wants to watch television, to play an electronic game, etc.

Their half million dollar house is a mess. Holes in the walls from the 9 year old throwing knife at different times. Writing and drawing on the walls means new paint is needed. Dishes are taken from kitchen and eating areas to their rooms and left among the thrown in the floor clothing....clean and not clean. Bathrooms are a mess with clothes, towels, toilet tissue, etc. Carpet has fingernail polish, markers stains, and torn from cats clawing on them to get in or out of bedrooms of children. I will just stop there.

The minute the children return from school the fighting begins...do you homework, clean your room, quit eating and wait for dinner, get your laundry downstairs to mudroom, do not fight with your sister or brother, do your chores, etc.

I have been here for a month and it has made no difference in how the family has acted and continues to act. I have heard the husband say that he did not like school either and was just like them. I almost fall over when he does this in front of them.

Our daughter was raised/reared completely different. She did her school work, kept her room tidy and neat, obeyed most of what she was asked to do, was not destructive, rarely disagreed or complained about anything, etc.

So here I am in the middle of all of this because I love our daughter and want to comfort during this time of trying to get her medicine and therapy adjusted. Most days she is up and does not get back in bed. Sadness seems to hit her quite often but we are working on doing things to help with that.

She is so upset about the sons that she does not know what to do to "motivate"
either of them. Now where they both got the same term "motivate" is beyond me. Sure is strange to here both a 15 year and a 9 year say "I just not motivated enough at school."

Frustrated, "motivated" Nana ]]> School & Education