I was raised to be seen and not heard. I was an only child for a long time so I spent a lot of time with adults. It was easier for my parents to take me with them than to find a baby-sitter. As a result, I learned to listen and act appropriately. The consequences were not pretty if I didn't obey.

When I became a mom, I wanted people to enjoy the presence of my children instead of dread it. That meant I would have to take the time and energy to consistently communicate my expectations of how I wanted them to conduct themselves. There were many times I found a corner for Taylor to stand in at a restaurant in order to follow through on the expectation I had set for him.

It wasn't long until I could take my kids anywhere. Everyone once and a while I would have to reinforce a rule or expectation but for the most part, they were well-behaved.

I share this not to brag or boast. Neil and I put a lot of time into the process of setting our expectations, rewarding the good , and providing consequences for the not-so-good. We both knew that if we paid our dues when they were little, they would have the tools they need when they grew to handle themselves well in the presence of potential bosses and in-laws.

Let me encourage you to make their behavior a priority. I know it is tiring, frustrating, and even boring at times. Nevertheless, by making their behavior a proprity, you will enjoy your children more as they get older and so will others. Teaching children to submit to authority is important because if you want them to ever become strong leaders, they must first learn how to be great followers, This season of life where you are teaching them discipline and obudnaries will serve them well for the rest of their lives.

Investing in this area today will have long term benefits. Hang in there and know you, as well as your children, will one day appreciate the sacrifice of time and love you gave to teach them how to live a disciplined life.

Always,

Catherine